College Relationships: The Challenges You May Not Know

Some may tell you they met the love of their life at college and maintained high school friendships while away.  However, some aren’t so lucky.  Friendships may come and go, and it’s ok if you’re starting to feel the pressure of keeping up with school, family, work, friendships and relationships.

Keep Your Priorities Straight

When going away for college, keep your priorities straight- you’re primarily there for school and to get your degree.  I don’t mean to say that friendships or relationships aren’t worth the effort of trying to maintain, but don’t ever forget why you’re going to school.

Many students these days can’t afford the cost of getting a higher education.  Attending a university is becoming a luxury for some, and impossible to afford for others.  If you’re able to afford the cost of college, the best thing you can do is focus all you have toward achieving your goal.  Even if it means holding off on getting a part time job, you should do what’s best towards getting an education.

Isolation isn’t the Answer

This doesn’t mean ignoring relationships and friendship if they come your way.  If you’re like me, and have experienced a long-distance relationship, it’s no easy place to be in.  It can be hard to focus on school when you’re mind is a hundred miles in a different direction.  It doesn’t work for some, and you can start to see the side effects affect your schoolwork.  The best advice I can give in this area is to know what you’re getting yourself into.  You have to be strong enough to prioritize and know what’s important at that moment in your life.  If you love the person you’re with then no one should tell you to walk away from that.  However, know that you’re going to college for a reason.  It has to be higher up on your list of priorities for the moment, or your grades will ultimately suffer.

Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk- Get Out There

As for friendships, you may lose touch with some old high school buddies.  This is completely normal and it shouldn’t make you feel like there’s something wrong with you; it happens to a lot of people.  But there’s still a chance to meet some great people during college, including your roommates.  As always, I believe that school should come first.  If you have homework or studying to do, then staying in before deciding to go out should be your first choice.  Nonetheless, there will be those times during the day or weekend when you have some extra free time.  This is the perfect time to hang out, meet new people, or plan a weekend getaway to go back home or to a new location.

College should be an adventure, a way to try new things and figure out more about yourself, but I never think it should be at the cost of your education.  You’re primarily going to school to get an education.  Be careful not to let distractions get in the way of this.  Being in a relationship or creating new friends is a part of growing up, and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice this part of your life.  Just make sure that it’s not at the expense of achieving your goal of graduating from college knowing you gave it your all.  Not everyone has this chance, so you should always be proud of what you’re accomplishing.

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Kali White

Kali White

Kali White is a junior at the University of California, Davis pursuing a degree in Communications and a minor in Sociology. Her goal is to have a career working for a publication company writing and editing. In her free time she enjoys the outdoors, reading, playing and listening to music, and travelling.