How I Dealt With A Troublesome Roommate
Oh roommates, can’t live with them, can’t live without them, well sometimes you can live without them. For instance, my roommate freshmen year?—totally could’ve lived without that one.
Here’s the short story: I was originally put into a forced triple (a double room that is shared by three because of over crowding). When a double room opened up upstairs in the same building, I jumped on the opportunity to be able to actually have a closet.
It turns out the reason for the vacancy was because the previous two roommates didn’t get along with each other (this should’ve been my first warning). Let’s just the say the relationship between this new roommate and me wasn’t so amicable either.
However, you deal with the cards you’re dealt right? So here is my advice on how to deal with a troublesome roommate and not lose your mind…or your housing.
- Keep your belongings separate: My roommate would complain to my RA that I kept my water bottles in her fridge without asking, even though we both agreed earlier that there would only be enough room for one fridge in the room. Anyways, avoid problems like this entirely by just keep everything you own in your own space. One of the best parts about roommates is being able to share clothes, movies, and food, but if you have an irritable one it’s better to draw boundary lines on everything.
- Don’t come in late: I was accused many times of coming into the room too loud or too late at night, even though I can promise you I was always respectful. Anyhow, rule number 2, if your roommate is already looking to pick a fight, and you’re going to be out late, find a friend to crash with until morning, and avoid the risk of any further accusations.
- Stand your ground: After my roommate organized a meeting with the two of us and our RA (without my knowledge, I might add) because I “talked too loud in the room” (Yes, I know—CRAZY), she approached me later that night and asked if I would trade rooms with her friend, who also wasn’t getting along with her roommate. Considering I had all my belongings unpacked, and also had the biggest room in the whole dorm, I didn’t feel it was on my shoulders to move. I stood my ground and told her if she wanted to live with her friend then she should move out, and her friend’s roommate could move in with me. I continued to stand my ground even after she offered to pay me to leave. In the end she did move out, I got to stay in my big room, and I got a new roommate who I got along with.