Roommate Problems? Read This!

Whether you were friends before or you just met them this year, you most likely will find yourself in a dispute or two with your roommate at some point during the school year. Not getting along with your roommate creates a lot of tension in your living space and can really stress you out, often making it difficult to focus on your studies.

You have to be able to properly confront your roommate when you have a problem with the way things are in order to keep the peace. If you say or do the wrong thing, it could make matters worse.

Are You Being Reasonable?

Before you actually confront your roommate, you need to first make sure that what you think is a problem is seriously affecting you. If it is not affecting you, personally, it’s not really fair to cause an argument about it. You don’t want to create problems by nitpicking. Remember, your roommate was not raised the same way as you. Try to be understanding for as long as you can.

Pick Your Words Wisely.

But when you have reached your limit with an issue that you actually think needs to be brought up, you have to figure out the best way to speak your mind. You saying, “I hate when you curl your hair!” is different than, “I really don’t like when you use my curling iron.” It’s always better to speak with them face to face as well. When you send them a text, it’s harder for your roommate to understand the seriousness in your tone. They will be less likely to repeat what it is that is bothering you if you say it to their face calmly and respectably.

Offer a Solution.

It is always easier for your roommate to accept the confrontation if you are also able to provide them with a solution to the problem. “I dislike when you use my curling iron, but I did see that there are some pretty cheap ones at Walmart that look pretty good.” Even if they choose not to use your solution, to them, it seems like you were trying to make it easier for them, which makes it harder for your roommate to be mad at you for asking him or her to change their ways.

Speak With Your Resident Adviser.

But if you think the problem is too serious or if your roommate does not do what needs to be done to make you feel more comfortable with the living situation, talk to your Resident Adviser about creating new living arrangements. It is their job as R.A.’s to make sure your living situation is as comfortable as it can be, so don’t feel like your request will be too demanding. People switch rooms all of the time, it is a very easy process. Just tell your R.A. that you have tried everything that you could think of and you can’t live with your roommate any longer. They will move you as soon as they can.

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Betsy Loeb

Betsy Loeb

Betsy Loeb is a senior at the University of Illinois majoring in Broadcast Journalism. She lacks the ability to draw, so she loves being able to express her creativity instead through her writing. She considers herself the “coolest nerd,” spending many Friday nights indoors playing Guitar Hero and discussing Pokemon cards with her friends.